How To Get To The Second Date

get-a-second-dateThis is it! This will make him fall for you on your first date. No, you don’t need to play hard to get. Nor do you have to act mysterious. There’s no need to put on a show to win him over.

The truth is this. You’ll never get anywhere by playing hard to get and acting mysterious. Those first date tactics never worked at all. They were used and abused. But they were never effective. Unfortunately, a lot of women relied on these tactics. Well, now it’s time to debunk them.

This Is For You, Girlfriends!

Just play it real! You like him, right? Then show him you’re interested. But of course, you’re not going to be all over him. You don’t want to look crazy or desperate, do you?

You want to play it real. Remember this is your first date with him. And you sincerely want to see him again. So be natural and show him you’re interested. This is what writer, Kylie Gilbert, has to say. You can actually make your date fall for you. How? You just need to show him some sincere enthusiasm. She says it’s important to focus and engage in the conversation. You need to show him that you’re interested in what he has to say.

Be Responsive

Gilbert cites a study by the Society for Personality and Social Psychology. The study shows that men are attracted to women that are perceived to be responsive.

Now get this! The study shows that men actually find responsive women attractive. So that explains why some men fall for girls that’s aren’t really hot! There’s nothing wrong with that really. But this is just to prove that being responsive works. Right?

Let’s go back to the study. According to it, being responsive is like being nice. Your responsiveness can be associated with these two things. First, you have the desire to be in a long-term relationship. Second, is that you’ve an amazing capacity to be sexually aroused. Apparently, these characteristics make a guy fall head over heels over you. So it wouldn’t hurt to be nice to your date. This is especially true if you want to see him again.

The Thin Line

But girlfriends, you need to be careful! There’s a thin line between responsiveness and sexual aggressiveness. Dr. Wendy Walsh is a relationship expert. She stresses the importance of knowing the difference between the two.

This is how you can be responsive to your date. Pay attention to his cues. Smile and show some interest in what he says. In simple words, appreciate him. This way, you’re responding positively to him. Remember, you’re taking it from his cues. He’s doing the leading, not you.

If you’re showing sexual aggressiveness, it means you’re doing the leading. You don’t want to do that. It’ll scare him away. So you need to be careful. There’s a need to differentiate the two.

Stop The Acting Now!

So it’s time to drop the acting. You can also stop playing hard to get. Times have changed. You don’t need to pretend. You don’t need to hide your feelings. If you’re happy with your date, don’t hide it. There’s nothing wrong with that. Your date will appreciate it.

So if you want to see him again, show him! Maybe even tell him. But one thing is for sure. He’ll want to see you again if you respond positively to him. So smile at him. Listen to him. Tell him you understand. Nod your head. Agree with him. Appreciate him. Value him. Let him take you where you want to go. And that’s to a second date with him.

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